Is Second Date Sex the New Norm?

What does a first kiss mean these days? Picture this. You are on a first day. It’s going so well. You have a ridiculous amount of things in common. The humor is flowing. You are starting to understand in your body that you would like to kiss and touch this person some time in the…

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The One. The Many.

the wonder the aching awe of connection in motion chemical tendrils of afffection and harmonious humor an enlivening of the skin a widening of the eyes we meet in a resonant river in the waters of infinite possiblity let’s flow together baby are you ready to be my one to be my many?

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#MeToo. Date Raped. Again.

About a week after I published my #MeToo blog, I was date raped. I imagine some activists hate the term “date rape,” as it somehow softens the violation. But in this case, this term feels good and accurate for me to use. This was a Tinder date gone wrong. The day-long texting and the first…

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Wild, Open and Free

If you bow down in devotion, her rewards are infinite. if you demonstrate your healthy mind body and breath in shiva stance grounded, open, vast, seamless her veil lifts her portal ignites her passion heals and your surrender buries in her thighs with glee and delight Honor, respect Like family, a human family One which…

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#METOO

I want to tell you my #metoo story. I feel trepidatious about this, as I’m sure many of you may have as you bravely revealed your stories of both traumatization and/or victimization in the realm of sexual assault, abuse and harassment. On the first day #metoo launched, I automatically shared the original post, “If all…

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Take it All

What is that conquering force That drive to dominate save one’s self one’s people one’s land Ownership claimed. Game over. Everyone fight Protect what’s yours! What’s yours? What’s yours?! You belong to you, my friend And that is where  it ends

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Desert Ritual

The Desert. Is it dead or alive? Traditionally the desert and I haven’t been friends. I prefer lush greenery, flowing rivers and the moist breath of mama ocean. But last night, I attended one of my best friend’s weddings. The wedding altar overlooked the vast and spacious landscape of Joshua Tree just as day blossomed…

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Lalita’s Year in Review: 2016 and then some

If ever there were a roller coaster year… This was it. January 1, 2016 I woke up in the arms of the man who I whole heartedly believed to be my life partner. Two months later, I was single, ecstatically happy and the most confident I had ever been. I was so busy creating new…

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Now

Gasping at the illusions of my own making Waves of rapturous gratitude punctuated with blindfolded terror Lost in a world of what if’s and what now’s Finding slivers of solace in fresh-start fantasies and full-bodied breaths In an endless maze of mirrors, the past reflects all around me As the present moment calls… And now,…

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Nowhere to go, but in

wondrously full and empty miraculously here and absent the mud of my stuckness is inching up my thighs what an interesting way to live, wading in thickness nowhere to go, but in so many stories I could weave to explain it but for now I just stay with it and choose to believe it is…

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