What kind of therapy are you seeking?
My Approach is:
After getting to know each other in our first few sessions, we will discuss which combination of the approaches detailed below you may benefit the most from. With consideration for your preferences and your consent, we decide how to move forward together. We will periodically evaluate if you want to continue with the approaches we have been using, or explore others. It is very important to me that you understand you are always at choice and it is your innate wisdom which guides our work together.
Client-Centered & Collaborative
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I am warm, nurturing and down-to-Earth. I believe building a trusting and transformative relationship is the foundation of doing meaningful work together, so we begin there. As our relationship develops, we may notice some of the patterns you have experienced in other relationships showing up in the therapy room between us. I believe it is helpful to work with this meta-awareness to heal relational trauma.
I am training in AEDP and well-versed in Attachment Theory and like to assist clients in discovering their attachment style and the impact it has on their relationships and mental health. Unfortunately, many people do not have a lot of securely-attached relationships in their lives. Our therapeutic relationship can provide an opportunity for you to experience this. For partners therapy, I use a variety of approaches, including The Gottman Method.
Though I take my role as your therapist very seriously, I am playful and like to use humor when appropriate. I am also direct, but not-directive–meaning I won’t hesitate to share an opinion or experience with you if I think it is useful, but your choices will always be respected and honored.
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Our minds and our bodies are deeply woven together by our nervous system and senses. With a somatic approach, you will learn how to invoke states of consciousness that are mindful and meditative, rather than our status quo consciousness, which is more intellectual.
I will guide you in building these skills so you can better regulate your nervous system, deepen your self-awareness, and feel more embodied. We will explore your core wounds and past traumas from the bottom up with this approach by using present moment sensation and insight to guide our way.
Focusing on the body in this way can be challenging at first, especially for trauma survivors. However, with careful pacing and a trusting therapeutic relationship, it can be immensely healing.
Some clients also find they enjoy incorporating guided meditations, breath work, movement, expressive art exercises, or safe touch into our sessions.
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In depth work, we begin by talking about your childhood and early adulthood relationships and explore how those experiences may be impacting your life now.
Through this, we gain insight into which coping mechanisms you have developed in order to grapple with stress and painful emotions. Coping mechanisms include things like perfectionism, addictions, suppression and dissociation.
In this approach, instead of rushing to eliminate these behaviors or symptoms, we explore the wisdom of how they developed to protect you. Discovering the root causes of your challenges can help resolve long-held pain and provide insight on how to evolve in a healthier direction. We also look closely at your unconscious behaviors and dreams, and may explore Jungian archetypes and active imagination exercises.
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I enjoy working through a terrapsychology lens. Terrapsychology is a more recent evolution of Ecotherapy. It focuses on developing a reciprocal relationship with nature to enrich one’s life and our environment. There are many ways we can incorporate this into our work together, the easiest being by meeting at a park for our sessions.
Sometimes, just the simple act of being outside can be immensely supportive to our mental health. I also resonate deeply with the work of Sophie Strand which focuses on the “intersection of spirituality, storytelling, and ecology.”
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I work with clients of all faiths, as well as atheists. For me, spirituality is about developing a curiosity and sense of awe and acceptance towards life. I believe this stance can be very beneficial to people’s mental health, however few are taught how to cultivate it.
My parents told me at a young age that I could choose my own religion. As a result, I have explored many paths, including atheism. For the past 15 years, I have studied Kashmir Shaivism (similar to Tibetan Buddhism), as well as Neo Tantra and Neo Paganism.
Along the way, I have picked up a good amount of tools and concepts that can help people expand their perspective on life, and build upon their own unique spiritual and cultural strengths. If you are curious to explore this, I am happy to include it in our sessions.
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Philosopher Jiddu Krishnamurti once said, “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” As I see it, our society is not particularly healthy and hasn’t been for some time. For far too long, many therapists have focused on getting rid of client’s symptoms, so they can get them back to being productive at work quickly. This saddens me because that kind of approach doesn’t promote deep or sustained healing.
We currently face a multitude of existential risks as a society that are quite terrifying. I believe it is important to discuss the difficulties of existing under late-stage capitalism and climate change, while also co-creating anti-oppressive ways to cope and evolve in healthier and more just directions.
To work toward this, I believe therapists must acknowledge and work to transcend the ugly truths of the racism in our field of study. It is also crucial that we help clients integrate the many layers of their social and cultural identities within the context of our current social conditions, including the power dynamics that exist between clients and therapists.
Psychology has traditionally been very focused on the individual, but this approach emphasizes the cultivation of connection with family and community. In these domains, I am most inspired by the work of Daniel Schmachtenberger, Gloria Anzaldúa, Leticia Nieto, Ignacio Martín-Baró, adrienne maree brown, Josh Schrei and Báyò Akómoláfé.
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To be honest, I have a love/hate relationship with traditional cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). On one hand, it can be very helpful to learn how to reframe painful thoughts that lead to harmful or unwanted behaviors, but sometimes it can encourage clients to over-intellectualize their issues, or even feel like they are gaslighting themselves.
I do, however, find a lot of value in the newer iterations of CBT, which are Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Both of these approaches combine the best parts of CBT with a large dose of mindfulness and a focus on learning to hold the paradox of both accepting painful emotions, while simultaneously working to change them.
I especially like ACT’s focus on increasing psychological flexibility, building upon one’s strengths, and discovering what one values most in life. This approach often includes worksheets and homework. I find it particularly useful when working with chronic shame, unworthiness, and incessant negative self-talk.
Specialties:
-Depression, anxiety, bipolar, ADHD & dual diagnoses
-Adolescents & families that are struggling with communication or mental health issues
-Gender identity & sexuality
*Especially for queer, trans, nonbinary, non-monogamous, sex-positive, and/or BDSM-oriented people
-Couple & polycule therapy for queer and non-monogamous people, or any partners struggling with communication & intimacy
-Communication, dating, and relationships issues
-Strengthening body image, boundaries, self-esteem & assertiveness
-Navigating career shifts
-Childhood relational trauma (C-PTSD)
-Intergenerational family trauma
-Recovery from narcissistic emotional abuse
-Existential fears & spiritual development
-Psychedelic Integration